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Fighting Fatigue in Leadership

Napoleon said it best: "Fatigue makes cowards of us all."*  When we get worn down, we are less optimistic, less creative, less willing to take risks and do hard things -- all of wh[...]

 
 

Guarding Against Emotional Affairs

An emotional affair happens when a person invests too much emotional energy with someone outside their marriage, and in turn receives too much emotional support and companionship f[...]

 
 

On the danger of pedestals – Part 2

Recently I wrote about the danger of people in churches projecting idealized images onto their pastors. This is not only unhelpful for the people, it’s dangerous and damaging for t[...]

 
 

On the Danger of Pedestals - part 1

As an ordained minister and the senior pastor of two churches, I know from experience that pedestals are dangerous. People often come into the church with a powerful mixture of exp[...]

 
 

Practicing Acceptance

Recovery has provided me with many lessons about leadership. One principle of recovery challenges the focus of leadership in many church settings: namely ... it teaches us to look [...]

 
 

Why accountability partners don't work

Most of the men I work with who are battling sexual temptation have a long history of failed attempts at overcoming their struggles. One of the most common strategies people in chu[...]