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Overcoming Emotional Hurt

When people have hurts and struggles in relationships, they tend to work on resolving them by focusing on forgiveness. There’s nothing wrong with forgiveness, but sometimes it’s ha[...]

 
 

Dealing with feelings of emptiness

How many times have you heard someone say: "I just feel so empty?" Maybe they didn't use that exact word, but that was the gist of it. Sometimes this label "emptiness" gets thrown [...]

 
 

When does looking become lusting?

When does a look become lust? Where is line that separates normal, healthy, God-given sexual response from sinful, destructive lust? Christians generally focus on Jesus’ teachin[...]

 
 

Fighting Fatigue in Leadership

Napoleon said it best: "Fatigue makes cowards of us all."*  When we get worn down, we are less optimistic, less creative, less willing to take risks and do hard things -- all of wh[...]

 
 

Guarding Against Emotional Affairs

An emotional affair happens when a person invests too much emotional energy with someone outside their marriage, and in turn receives too much emotional support and companionship f[...]

 
 

On the danger of pedestals – Part 2

Recently I wrote about the danger of people in churches projecting idealized images onto their pastors. This is not only unhelpful for the people, it’s dangerous and damaging for t[...]

 
 

On the Danger of Pedestals - part 1

As an ordained minister and the senior pastor of two churches, I know from experience that pedestals are dangerous. People often come into the church with a powerful mixture of exp[...]